Alternatives To Crying It Out
Alternatives To Crying It Out as i know it can be extremely difficult in the beginning.
one of the things that holds a lot of parents back from making change around their child's sleep habits is the idea of leaving their child alone for a long length of time to figure this out. most people would label that a cry it out approach, that you put your baby down without their prop and hope that they fall asleep independently without you being present.
that can work for some people, but for other parents, the idea of doing that holds them back.
my program, has an option where you can stay in the room with your child, because this is a skill set. That's it. There is nothing magic going on here. It is just a SKILL. You have to learn to sleep well and independently. So it does not really matter if a parent is there or a parent isnt there. It does not have a lot to do with the parent, period.
and that's the important piece of the puzzle, that you get yourself out of this relationship with sleep and you help your child develop skills that are independent of you or anything else. and once they figure that out, then they become great and beautiful sleepers.
for lots of families, sitting in the room works beautifully. within a few nights, the child is sleeping well. the protest is minimum. by the end of the week, the child's happily going into the crib. there may be a few bumps along the road as your child learns the process, but it does go well.
however, some babies, you being there is causing more problems than solutions. your presences is not helping. They are getting more upset, or super agitated with the fact that you are sitting there, but you are not doing anything. and in those cases, you need to ask yourself, is it worth me feeling better by being here and making it harder on my child, or would it be better to make this a little easier on my child and me be more uncomfortable? My guess is you would want it easier on your child.
i say give sit in the room a try for the first three nights at least and if on the fourth night, you are finding that there is no reduction in the protest or your child is increasingly more upset, then move to leave and check method.
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